Learning To Love Myself

If I’m completely, totally honest-and in this post I’m going to be-I don’t love myself. A lot of the time, I don’t really like myself. Sure, if I’ve just done my hair, have my favourite outfit on, a full face of makeup and my eyebrows have been waxed I can take a selfie from the same old slightly higher than a normal person angle and think ‘okay, I’ll do’. But I never look in the mirror and love what I see. I thought it was about time I started learning to love myself, and so here’s how I intend to do it.

girl in maroon top and black tulle skirt stood on some steps

Be in more photos

I have friends who, when I take amazing photos of them, don’t like the photo. It’s not that they think I’m bad at taking photos (because hello come on I am a photographer after all) it’s that they just don’t like how they look in the shot. I have never understood anything more, because I am exactly the same-that’s why I like to be the one taking the photos. But I’ve decided to be braver, and be in more photographs, and trust that if someone says I look good in it, I look good in it.

Kariss took the photos of me that are in this post, and I’m actually surprised that I like them.

Revamp my wardrobe

Dressing for my shape, to show off what I like and hide what I don’t, is the very best way to feel better about myself. I need to start buying outfits I love on my body and only those things. If I’m not sure of something, then it’s not right and I’m not buying it. Bring on the gorgeous new wardrobe.

girl with silver hair in maroon top and black tulle skirt stood next to a red brick wall

Look at myself objectively

I’ve made a list of what I like about myself so that I can focus on those things more. I really like my thick hair, my eyes, and my hands. I have nicely shaped nails which I love when they’re painted. My boobs, my bum,and my height (5 foot 4.5 inches) are also things I like. As feet go, mine are alright. As a photographer, I am good at going through photos I’ve taken of a person and seeing immediately where they look great. I’ve started to do the same with myself. Yes I might not like how I look overall, but if I look good at the moment, in that photo, or in that outfit-then I am embracing that.

Lose some weight

I’m not going to apologise for wanting to lose weight. I know how good I feel at ten stone, a size 10/12, and so that where I’m aiming to get back to.

I’m hoping that all of this works and does lead to me learning to love myself. Because really, we should all be kinder to ourselves, right?

girl in maroon top with silver hair sat by a window reading her phone






  1. March 1, 2018 / 4:20 pm

    You are beautiful and I think as women, most of us feel the way you are. You are doing positive steps which is great.

  2. March 1, 2018 / 8:25 pm

    I think so many women will relate to this, I feel exactly the same about myself. I’m going to try to follow your steps, you are right we do need to learn to love ourselves x

  3. March 2, 2018 / 5:25 am

    I can certainly relate to not loving what you see in the mirror! These are great steps to take! I may take a leaf out of your book and try these things too! x #bloggerclubuk

  4. March 3, 2018 / 2:04 pm

    Losing weight is a massive step for me to love myself. I know I can look different and I’m totally with you on this one.

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