I very rarely use Tinder, and in fact the only conversation I have open on there is with a good friend of mine, who Super Liked me when he came across me on there and then proceeded to send really funny but cheesy chat up lines when I was upset with him. We normally speak via Whatsapp but that conversation makes me laugh, so I’ve left it there. This post, though, is a story of the one who circumvented the system, and managed to contact me without my matching him. I’ve writen quite a few dating posts recently so if you enjoy this one, you should also check out some of the others.
On Saturday morning I got a Whatsapp message from a number I didn’t know, simply saying ‘hi, how are you?’ Six messages and a threat of the police later (long, LONG story not related to the guy at all in the end) he finally told me who he was, and we started talking.
Two and a half hours later, he said ‘I don’t know what to say to you-you’re doing great things and I don’t want to hold you back’. He then said ‘You have an amazing future ahead of you and I wouldn’t want to interrupt anything or ruin it’. And I said he was being far too intense for someone I’d spoken to for two and a half hours and lets leave it there as I don’t need someone like this in my life. Then I put my phone down and did some work, returning to it nearly three hours later, to find:
18:52 Am sorry
18:52 I really am
18:53 I don’t mean any thing in a bad way. Just I wouldn’t want to interrupt anything you do. (Ironically mate, my phone keeps beeping so…)
18:58 I actually see how much you want to do all that you told me. All am saying is I don’t really want to be the one to hold your dream back.
19:01 I said that I was shy. Am admit am not a confident person because I’ve never had confident people around me. But I understand you don’t want me around and I’ve ruined it.
19:07 Anyways I understand. You won’t hear from me again ok.
19:10 Have a fantastic Saturday night. Take care x (Definitely not understanding how I’ll never hear from him again, here)
20:50 Ok to talk for a min?
21:00 I really don’t want to stop talking to you Laura tbh
21:02 I really enjoyed talking to you today, you’re a kind and caring person x
21:05 So I would love to carry on chatting with you x
21:08 Are we ok to?
At this point I picked up my phone having written a couple of posts and deciding to catch up to the group chat (which, interestingly, had three unread messages between seven people-not the THIRTEEN from this guy) and said ‘what the actual fuck?’ This behaviour at such an early stage, when I am literally a stranger, is such a red flag, and so I blocked him. Lucky escape number two of the week for me there. What is WRONG with people? First I had Dave from the boat, and then the one who circumvented the system.
*This is a sponsored post which I have been paid to write. All words, thoughts and the one who circumvented the system are my own.