*The One Who Circumvented The System

I very rarely use Tinder, and in fact the only conversation I have open on there is with a good friend of mine, who Super Liked me when he came across me on there and then proceeded to send really funny but cheesy chat up lines when I was upset with him. We normally speak via Whatsapp but that conversation makes me laugh, so I’ve left it there. This post, though, is a story of the one who circumvented the system, and managed to contact me without my matching him. I’ve writen quite a few dating posts recently so if you enjoy this one, you should also check out some of the others.

On Saturday morning I got a Whatsapp message from a number I didn’t know, simply saying ‘hi, how are you?’ Six messages and a threat of the police later (long, LONG story not related to the guy at all in the end) he finally told me who he was, and we started talking.

A bouquet of pink roses

Two and a half hours later, he said ‘I don’t know what to say to you-you’re doing great things and I don’t want to hold you back’. He then said ‘You have an amazing future ahead of you and I wouldn’t want to interrupt anything or ruin it’. And I said he was being far too intense for someone I’d spoken to for two and a half hours and lets leave it there as I don’t need someone like this in my life. Then I put my phone down and did some work, returning to it nearly three hours later, to find:

18:32 Ok

18:52 Am sorry

18:52 I really am

18:53 I don’t mean any thing in a bad way. Just I wouldn’t want to interrupt anything you do.  (Ironically mate, my phone keeps beeping so…)

18:58 I actually see how much you want to do all that you told me. All am saying is I don’t really want to be the one to hold your dream back.

19:01 I said that I was shy. Am admit am not a confident person because I’ve never had confident people around me. But I understand you don’t want me around and I’ve ruined it.

19:07 Anyways I understand. You won’t hear from me again ok.

19:10 Have a fantastic Saturday night. Take care x (Definitely not understanding how I’ll never hear from him again, here)

20:50 Ok to talk for a min?

21:00 I really don’t want to stop talking to you Laura tbh

21:02 I really enjoyed talking to you today, you’re a kind and caring person x

21:05 So I would love to carry on chatting with you x

21:08 Are we ok to?

At this point I picked up my phone having written a couple of posts and deciding to catch up to the group chat (which, interestingly, had three unread messages between seven people-not the THIRTEEN from this guy) and said ‘what the actual fuck?’ This behaviour at such an early stage, when I am literally a stranger, is such a red flag, and so I blocked him. Lucky escape number two of the week for me there. What is WRONG with people? First I had Dave from the boat, and then the one who circumvented the system.

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*This is a sponsored post which I have been paid to write. All words, thoughts and the one who circumvented the system are my own.



  1. February 26, 2018 / 7:25 pm

    Crikey – I am so glad I am out of the dating game but have friends who are – there are some truly odd people about.

  2. February 27, 2018 / 6:48 pm

    Yikes! Tinder is a weird place. I’ve never met anyone who has had a happy, long lasting relationship on there…only a lot of one night stands! I’m sure there have to be lovely people on there somewhere though and not your crazy new stalker.

  3. February 28, 2018 / 9:14 pm

    the dating scene can be a tricky and confusing place to be in – I hear so many horror stories from friends x

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